Lessons from the Beyhive: Cheating Husbands and Lemonade

Dealing with Cheating HusbandsEver since Beyoncé released her visual album Lemonade on HBO and Tidal, you learn a simple lesson: no one messes with the Queen, not even Jay Z.

The release of Lemonade resulted in numerous speculations that the album is about her husband’s rumored cheating escapades. She never formally addressed the issue, but with lyrics such as “If you try this again, you gon’ lose your wife,” and “Beautiful man, I know you’re lying. I’m not broken, I’m not crying,” you know she’s serious about addressing the cheating incident.

The whole incident is not only interesting, but empowering at the same time—especially for women in the same situation.

Acknowledging the Pain

The idea of separation and betrayal is painful. You can’t imagine seeking the help of a local divorce attorney in Long Island or wherever it is you live. At first, you try to deny the truth—he can’t be cheating, he won’t dare. But when the truth slaps you in the face, it’s hard.

During this time of trial, don’t hold it in. Just like Beyoncé, let it all out. In her case, she chose to express her pain through powerful lyrics that touches others. The whole ordeal is painful and it’s all right to shed a tear or to sob all night.  

But you can’t keep crying forever.

This is Not the End

Just because your spouse cheated on you doesn’t mean you can’t rise above the occasion. Beyoncé kept calm and continued doing what she does best: write songs and be fierce. If the allegations are true, then Beyoncé is an A+ victim of a cheating husband.

This isn’t the end for you. Remember: you can still move on; don’t let your husband’s mistakes bring you down.

Stand Up Again

Life need not revolve around your future ex. Use this time to discover yourself again by pursuing hobbies or other interests. Do what’s best for you; if that includes separating from a man who cheats, then do so by all means. It’s not about him anymore—it’s about what works for you.

Cheating is painful and sometimes, it seems as if there’s no turning back. But heed the speech at the end of Beyonce’s track “Freedom”: I had my ups and downs, but I always found the inner strength to pull myself up. I was served lemons, but I made lemonade.